The Selfish Homeschool Mother

I’m A Selfish Homeschool Mum! Are You?

“I could never homeschool. I’m too selfish!” This is a line I’ve heard from many mothers when they find out that I homeschool. Well, as proud as that might make me feel, I know I can still be a pretty selfish person when it comes to getting through my homeschool day to day.

I’ll describe homeschool mother’s selfishness as any actions, or motive, that lacks consideration for her homeschool children; she is concerned chiefly with her own personal profit or pleasure.

Time To Homeschool

I don’t start my day out intending to be selfish. It just sort of happens.

Why? Because Stuff Gets In My Way

Stuff for me might be answering emails, writing a blog post, getting the house clean, making a phone call, deciding to reorganise a cupboard, or doing some online homeschool research. It could also include just ducking down to the shops, spending time on social media, finishing off some sewing, or reading a book.

Many of these things are not selfish in themselves, it’s just that I do them at the wrong time – I’m doing them when I should really be homeschooling! I could go on, but I think you get the picture. The crux of all of these activities is that they are stuff I’d rather do than homeschooling.

I really do have good intentions but all the stuff is so tempting. I feel it calling me and I kid myself into thinking I have time to fit it in but in reality I don’t.

Can I Stop Being Selfish?

Knowing it is an issue for me makes me want to change and do better. I have met many homeschool mothers who also struggle with this very same issue.  They are not lazy women, they are usually frantically busy women.

Today I read this passage in the Bible:

“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Let this mind be in you which was also in Jesus Christ…” Philippians 2:3-5

The best way I can deal with this issue of selfishness is by looking to Jesus Christ for inspiration and asking for strength from the Holy Spirit to give me a servant heart. I also need to have wisdom to make sure that I make good choices.

I wrote this post today as a reminder to me, and to other mothers that have this same struggle, that we need to be vigilant to stay on top of this selfishness?

Will you pray for me?  I’m praying for you!

Please leave a comment.

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  1. Susan  September 19, 2014

    Nicely said, Michelle. Such a good positive reminder of something I frequently need reminding of. Oh, and I love the choice of words in the second frame of Tim’s Lego cartoon. It sums it up perfectly and speaks loud in my ear. 🙂

    • Michelle  September 19, 2014

      Yes Susan I was the prototype for that lego cartoon.

  2. Helen  September 19, 2014

    This is very much me and after more than 20 years of homeschooling those distractions only pull harder! Thank you for reminder to keep my focus where it should. It is also good/encouraging to know I am not the only one who struggles with this.

    • Michelle  September 19, 2014

      I agree Helen the pull does become a little harder as the years march on. I’ve found I can do more stuff as the children become more independent. However it’s easy to squeeze in more than I should and squash out things I shouldn’t.

  3. Sarah  September 9, 2014

    Hi again, I just read in your introduction that you have two at university. I was wondering if you have written a blog post regarding what qualifications your child needs to get into tafe, university, or even what they need to pass year 10 or year 12? Would you know where I can find this information. Any ideas would be much appreciated. Kind Regards, Sarah

  4. Sarah  September 9, 2014

    Great post Michelle, and so very true. Thank God that we can learn and change. 🙂

  5. Melissa  September 8, 2014

    I love this. I’m sure you knew I needed it 🙂

  6. Vanessa  September 8, 2014

    Well said, Michelle. Selfish distractions are something I have recently noticed I need to rein in during our homeschooling time (again). I will join you in praying about this. 🙂

    • Michelle  September 11, 2014

      Well Vanessa I find it’s a constant battle.


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