The Margin Of Motherhood


The Margin of Motherhood

Are you trying to fit in 100 things at once? Are you seriously busy? Is your schedule fully booked? Are you always late? Is there a niggling feeling that you never have enough time? Do you wish you had 20 more hours in your day? Is a good sleep becoming an optional extra? Do you only text because you don’t want to have a conversation? When you have a conversation do you get a hundred texts? Are you are a mother?

As a wife and mother of four children with a home to maintain, a home business to run and homeschool lessons to supervise and teach I am busy. Then I can add in the extra responsibilities to my extended family and church. My life could run me ragged and it wouldn’t care.

But each year I get a little better at “fitting it all in” and it’s not just because my kids are getting older.

Yes Boundaries Are Good

People often think it’s because I set good boundaries; in other words – I’ve learnt how to say “no”. And that is definitely a part of it. I have pruned down my to-do-list of what I will do and I’m learning not to feel guilty about it. I don’t get involved in everything at church –I’m selective. I don’t go out as often as I’m invited. I don’t let my kids go out as often as they are invited.

And I have Learnt to Set a Margin

I am not a scheduler. I’m a big picture girl and in my life I know that there are many things that I haven’t thought about finding time to do. So I have an equation in my head that I apply and it’s think what you have to do and how much time it will take and then double it; for me that works.

Giving Up To Achieve Your Goals

I know when people just tell you to do less you probably just switch off because I know that you don’t want to be doing as much as you are doing. However I encourage you to pull back and assess what you are doing and how you can give yourself the time you need.

Andy Stanley calls setting a margin, giving yourself breathing room and I thoroughly recommend these talks. You’ll need 30 minutes for each talk but they are well worth it. These videos are the most wonderful sermons on making room for your life. I encourage you to listen to them.

In January I looked at how busy my year ahead was going to be. I could see I had added a few new things to my life over the past year and I could see The Mum Heart Conference was nearing and that was going to take a lot of my time. Something had to be dropped! I prayed for wisdom. I decided to take a break from social media for six months. I even closed two of my accounts. I know that’s supposed to be suicide for an online business but I needed to free up time and social media had become daily habit that demanded too much attention. It was a good decision.

Planning For Peace

Frazzled days can become a normal experience if you let them. However when you leave some margin or gaps of spare time you can leave room for the unexpected: a call from someone who is in need, a longer wait at the checkout, a child who wants help with a particular activity. Margin allows you to say yes to the unexpected!



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  1. Linda Wilson  January 18, 2018

    Thanks for sharing that Michelle. We have watched Andy Stanley before but hadn’t seen that series of messages. Excellent! So applicable to us all.


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