Permission For Mother Time
When you’re homeschooling, caring for your family is a 24/7 job. If you’re not cleaning the house, preparing meals, or doing the washing, then you’re probably supervising homeschool lessons, running kids around or organising the family schedule. And of course there are the commitments outside the home as well. It never stops!
It’s not uncommon to see a homeschooling mother who always puts herself last. Even going to the doctor, eating healthily or having friends can be pushed aside for family needs. However there is a great difference between looking after yourself and being a selfish homeschool mother. And we need to make that distinction and give ourselves permission to look after ourselves.
Being the family lynch pin can be very exhausting. And without some intentional strategies it isn’t long before we can find ourselves running on empty. Unrealistic homeschool expectations are often at the route of many of our frustrations and in my early days of homeschooling I found myself quite vulnerable to them. I learnt I needed to give myself permission to set boundaries.
Finding Mother Time With Kids Always There
These days it easier to find time for myself than when I had babies and toddlers . Sure my kids are older but I’ve also become older and learnt how to make sure I find the time to recharge my batteries.
Let Me Teach You A Saying
I have a little saying that is very liberating. When I say it I am reminded that I make choices in my day and I can be intentional with how I spend my time. Unfortunately Super Mum guilt trips are always competing for attention but this little saying helps drown those out. So what’s my phrase? It is this –I give myself permission; this is how I use it.
10 Things I Give Myself Permission To Do.
- I give myself permission to stop work each day. Just like your family have a knock-off time I set one. I use that off work time to pursue some things I want to do.
- I give myself permission to let the house get a little messy. Let’s face it a Super Mom’s work is never done, and if we got everything clean in our home that we knew needed doing we would never rest.
- I give myself permission to say no. We don’t have to do all the things asked of us.
- I give myself permission to have a rest or even a day off. Sometimes you really need some time out. It’s not a sin to have a sleep instead of doing the dishes or to spend a day by yourself. Plan it!
- I give myself permission to read books that nourish my mind and soul.
- I give myself permission to watch a movie and read books just for fun. BBC period dramas are a must in my repertoire.
- I give myself permission get an education also. While I’m teaching the kids I also need new ideas and encouragement.
- I give myself permission to have friends and spend time with them. If you don’t feel like you have any friends make time to find some. We all need friends.
- I give myself permission to have an interest that isn’t about the kids.
- I give myself permission to have a Sabbath rest day and for our family that is Sundays. On that day there’s time for Church and rest. There is no school work, no washing, no major cooking and no cleaning.
Give Yourself A Mother Time Permission Slip
I know that it’s often easier to read about taking time out than it is to actually do it.
Can you give yourself permission to make some time for yourself?
Here are some wise words from a veteran homeschool mum of seven kids.
“Do not let the daily grind of laying down your life make you forget what really makes you come alive, because that is what your children need MOST – a mother who is truly alive to God, to them, and to herself.” Interview with Elizabeth B.
Read more ideas from other ihomeschool bloggers on how they intentionally make space to renew themselves.